who we are

UNTIGERING is a global movement of cycle breakers who are committed to the practice of peaceful parenting and self-directed education — honoring, respecting, and trusting in the inherent dignity and rights of children as human beings.

Together, we are unlearning and dismantling the ways of tiger parenting (with its roots in authoritarianism, domination, fear, and trauma), particularly within the cultural context of Asian families.

The vision of UNTIGERING is to inspire intergenerational & cultural transformation through parenting practices grounded in anti-oppression, decolonization, nonviolence, and personal & communal healing.

We imagine a future of collective liberation for us all!

Welcome!

untigering definition

  1. the process of detoxing from being tiger parented.
  2. the process of detoxing from being a tiger parent.

Parent Coaching

Struggling with parenting & wanting to experience a powerful transformation in your family? Get 1:1 support with Iris.

Workshops

Parenting & unschooling workshops to deepen your practice of anti-oppression in your homes & communities.

Membership

Group coaching, Untigering parent community, and regular support! Find a membership tier that fits your needs.

MEET THE FOUNDER

Hi there! I’m Iris Chen — Chinese American author, unschooling mom, and deconstructing tiger parent to two teenage boys.

I started out as an authoritarian parent whose goal was to raise obedient and high-achieving children.

When my attempts to control them only led to constant conflict and frustration, I knew something had to change… and it wasn’t my children!

I began a journey of healing and shifting away from using power over my children to sharing power with them. 

Now as a peaceful parenting advocate, intersectional unschooler, and certified parent coach, my hope is to encourage and support you to do the same.

Thank you for being here!

Iris

Founder & Certified Parent Coach

UNTIGERING RESOURCES

From podcasts, to books, to workshops, to parent coaching, it is my hope to provide you with the support you need for your own untigering journey.
 

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